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It’s almost midnight but I’m still awake chatting with my friend Romy. You see, he is currently living in Canada and he has been working there for almost 5 years now. He was lucky enough to have a great decent job there where he was able to pay all his debts he left in our country and was able to save a lot for his future.

And because he was employed in a big company, he was promoted to a step higher from where he is and now he will be relocated to Colorado and manage one of the company’s branch there. Wow! It has been his dream of living in Colorado since we were in high school. You see, most of families are already living there but unfortunately, they cannot help Romy in terms of his immigrant visa and petition. Good thing, Romy was lucky enough to have the chance thru his employer.

As I’ve said, he will be relocated Colorado specifically in Denver. He is really excited about this one but before he could go there he needs to settle some things with regards to his house. Apparently, his employer told him to find and choose what house he wants and where in Denver. He actually wants a condominium unit but if the price fits the company’s budget for his relocation, he’s better off in choosing a good home, right? So, as a loving and loyal friend I thought of helping him by recommending an Automated Homefinder that I recently used with one of my client. Thru this homefinder he would be provided with information that he needs for him to buy the house or condo he wants. The best thing about it he can specifically narrow his search by cities and can browse all available units of Denver downtown real estate and see it for himself in pictures. Awesome, right? Anways, I really hope this will aid him a lot in finding his new home. Goodluck bro!

Looks like my son Ashley will be thrilled to see this movie next year.

Yup! The Monsters are back and this time they are inside the university. Just look how hilarious these scenes are. Lol!

Ashley first had a glance with Monster, Inc. last year when they had it shown on our cable television. Since then, he couldn’t get enough of them and honestly speaking I also love watching them. Lol!

Here is a little synopsis of the movie c/o Yahoo.

‘Monsters University’ follows our favourite lovable monsters, Mike and Sulley, through their time at the University of Fear as their friendship evolves from mere roommates who can’t stand the sight of each other to the best of buddies.

As one can expect from a coming-of-age, college-life movie, the one-minute trailer is simple and hilarious; showing how Sulley pranks poor ol’ Mike as their fellow college monster mates throw a huge dorm party. You know, typical college stuff.

‘Monsters University’ features the voices of John Goodman, Billy Crystal, Steve Buscemi, Ken Jeong and Kelsey Grammer among others, and is scheduled to hit cinemas in June 2013.

Looks like will be heading the theater with the kids again next year! We will definitely watch this movie in the big screen. See you all in June 2013!

I want this oversized bean bag chair!

Yes, I’m serious to get one for my mom! I’ve been seeing some bean bag chair on the malls and some furniture shop near our place but I don’t really like their designs and textures. Most of the chairs were made of synthetic leather which is a great no no on furniture.

I hate them on my furniture because they are easily damaged and don’t look good at all. Good thing, I came across Soothingbeanbags.com where they really sell big bean bag chairs. With its velvety gamusa texture and softness of its chair my mom would definitely love to sit and relax on them. Hopefully, I could buy here one next month! 

My husband and I usually disagree on this kind of issue. We always fight when I see him spanked my kids. Unfortunately, he’s the type of dad that uses spanking as a sign of discipline which for me is a big no no.

So I tried browsing the internet and saw this article from Nannypro.com. I hope this could help other parents out there.

While some subjects have a definite division between black and white, right and wrong. Spanking seems to have a lot of gray area. Is it truly a generational division? Do only older people feel that spanking is effective? Or is it how you were raised? You were spanked and you turned out okay so then, is it okay for you to spank your child? Is spanking a conscious decision? Or is it just a knee-jerk reaction to a situation that has made you angry? Many feel that this “newfangled” approach to discipline or lack thereof, is what’s wrong with our kids today. This is that gray area that I was talking about. Many parents who spank occasionally think that it is a necessary evil and they are actually trying to make their kids better, more responsible adults. Is this indeed the case though? Check out 8 reasons spankings are not effective.

1. Hitting promotes hitting: I’m sure this is not the first time you’ve read this reasoning. There is a reason that you see it a lot, it’s true! If you hit your child for misbehaving then they will hit when something doesn’t go their way. It you spank your child, even occasionally; watch how they interact with other children. Hitting will happen, especially with siblings, because they feel safer knowing that no other parent is going to get mad at them. However it will happen with their friends as well. If they don’t get their way when playing a game or if someone takes something that they want or that belongs to them they will hit first and ask questions later. This response does not happen when I child has never been spanked. The child has been taught other ways of conflict resolution. Whatever the parent does is probably how the children will go about solving their own conflicts.

2. Spanking is not effective: I can hear all of you who believe in spanking saying, “Yes it is.” But think about it, what does spanking really accomplish? It shocks and hurts the child. It often makes the child cry and scream. It makes the spanker feel better for a minute and then feel guilty. Do you find that the child never misbehaves again? Does it make the child afraid of you? Ask yourself if you want to create those results? Are there other ways that you can stop the behavior that you don’t like? Can you remove your child from the situation? Can you redirect the child in a more productive way? Many times these things will work and you do not have to resort to spanking. Often spanking is the lazy way of disciplining. Let’s face it, spanking is quick and doing other things like removing your child from the area and getting them started on another activity takes time and effort on your part.

3. Loss of trust: I’m sure you’ve heard Dr. Phil, or some authority equally as knowledgeable, say that you are your child’s soft place to fall. Everyone needs at least one person who will love him or her unconditionally and not judge him or her. Children and people for that matter, make mistakes. Making mistakes is human nature. If you are not making mistakes then you are not learning. Children are not born knowing everything. They have to learn and be taught how to resolve disputes nicely. They have to learn that playing with matches is a bad idea. They have to learn that kicking a soccer ball in the house can lead to breaking something. If a child cannot trust that they won’t be hit for making mistakes then they will stop trying. If they stop trying they will stop learning. I don’t think most parents want that to happen.

4. Spanking may lead to anger issues: Often times spanking is done with anger. You have lost your temper with your child and now you are hitting them. Why does that sound like a bad idea? If you are hitting while you are angry you will hit harder than you would if you were not angry. Back in the day, stay at home moms would say, “Just wait until your father comes home!” Yes, this would make the child worry, but at least they are not being hit in the heat of the moment. Dad was not involved so if he is the designated spanker he won’t be spanking in anger. Waiting to spank will often result in no spanking because now that you are calm and not angry you are better able to come up with a better solution. If you hit in anger your child may rebel and reflect that anger back at you or transfer it to someone or something else. No one wants an angry child or one that lashes out every time something doesn’t go his or her way. Or a child who doesn’t feel able to lash out will hold the anger in and become the stereotypical angry teenager.

5. Spanking may lead to violence: Children who are spanked, as a child will learn that violence will get them their own way. Being spanked may also lead to that child spanking or beating their own child. The cycle repeats generation after generation, but the scars are still there. When a child is spanked that child is more likely to lash out and hit a family pet. That pet may develop a distrust or dislike of children because of the treatment they received and bite an innocent child or the child that hit him. Violence begets violence with people, animals or whatever.

6. Lack of learning to cope: When a child misbehaves there may be a plethora of reasons why. Many of these reasons may not even be the child’s fault. If you don’t get enough sleep do you feel “out of sorts” the next day? The same can be said for a child. In this world of busyness many times children do not get enough sleep and can be walking around in a state of perpetual crankiness. Sometimes something as simple as an allergy can cause a child to misbehave. Now that we know why a child sometimes misbehaves we can see that it is important that child learn how to solve conflict in a good way. If we interrupt the learning by spanking the child then they will not learn how to properly cope with a difficult situation.

7. Sexual deviant behavior: It has even been linked that those children who were spanked regularly as a child may grow up to enjoy spanking as an adult in a sexual setting. Researchers have concluded that because the buttocks are a sexual part of the body the link between being spanked on the buttocks and sexual pleasure is made early on and could carry over into adulthood.

8. Spankings may result in future back pains: Some studies have suggested that even mild spankings that occur near the base of the spine can cause vibrations to shutter up the spine and can cause future back pain as an adult. There have even been reported cases where children were paralyzed or killed by spanking. While this is the exception and not the rule it has happened and I’m sure no one wants that to happen to his or her own child.

Thank God it’s Friday! But it’s not the end of my working days as an office gal I still have tomorrow for our office is open until Saturday! Urgh!  Oh well, enough of that. I am currently in the mood of blogging today and join some memes and this time I would like to participate with Mommy Chris “Mommy Moments”.

Today’s theme is all about AWARDS so here’s my entry for this week.

These medals belong to my eldest son Ashley, he attended a Nursery class last year and last March we were really so happy and so proud that he was able to bagged the SECOND HONOR and the BEST IN READING award.

As a mom, I was really in heaven when his teacher confirmed it to us. Even though he didn’t grab the FIRST HONOR I am still very happy with what he achieved.

Well, who wouldn’t be, right? I myself only grab the Best in Religion award when I was his age. Lol!

I got ecstatic as well when I learned that he will be the one who will do the WELCOME REMARKS of their graduation.

I am so blessed and happy right now. Thank you Lord..